Tuesday, June 10, 2008

Let it go!

When I was younger, in my 20's/30's, there were times when everything in my life was over dramatized. I'm not sure of why. Maybe it was the need for attention because of my lack of a stable job or homelife at the time. Or maybe I wanted to feel important to others or try to make them feel I deserved their respect. I know respect has to be earned. That's not what I'm saying. But sometimes people need to make the little things in life seem more important than what they need to be. They may not even be aware that they are doing it. There are many reasons why people do this. I'll speak only of my past experiences. I know I sometimes made things seem more important than they were because of my insecurities. I always needed the pat on the back because I wasn't getting it from the places where it should have came from. I'm not saying I was in constant need of praise, but a "we're proud of you" would've been nice once in awhile. Anyway, what I was getting to is that I would sometimes build things up more than they needed to be just to boost my own ego or to try to gain respect from others. I guess it can be interpreted as writers embellishment for the most part. I've even seen others do this and just smile because it doeesn't hurt anyone. What I have found, recently, is some take it in the other direction. That is to say something that most would consider trivial gets turned into a major issue and gets blown way out of proportion and people get hurt. I've seen it a lot lately and it bothers me. I finally learned when I was in my mid 30's, don't sweat the small stuff. I don't let the little things bother me. If it's something that needs to be dealt with, I deal with it in a calm manner thus avoiding unneccessary confrontation. I learned that sometimes you need to give a little in friendships and that you don't always have to be right. And by that I mean you can still be right but be smart enough to know that letting someone else feel in the right on the little things that really aren't that important is much better than losing a friend. 9 times out of 10, that person isn't trying to hurt you or be better than you, they are just adamant on what they believe. So, if it's not as important of an issue to you, just let it go. And don't say things like...you're right but I.... that only adds fuel to what was once a simple discussion and turns it into a major issue or arguement. Don't nit pick your friends. Everyone has faults or little habits. To some it may not be a problem, it may annoy others. Just remember that no one is perfect. Concentrate on things that really matter, not the petty BS. Learn to let the litle things go. You'll be much happier in the end.

1 Comments:

Anonymous MystycDawn said...

Looks like even though you didn't get what you needed in the past, you gained much wisdom!
Bravo!

12:28 PM  

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